16 She considers a field, then buys it, and from her earnings she plants a vineyard. 17 She gathers her strength around her and throws herself into her work. 18 She sees that her business affairs go well; her lamp stays lit at night. Proverbs 31:16-18 CJB
Clearly someone agitated me with this topic. In this episode, I wanted to separate the things I hear both men and women complaining about from what is real vs. random ideology mankind made up. The first half is on points in feminism that can be problematic; the second half is on Bible verses proving that the way we define gender roles is not Biblical. I apologize for the length of the episode; feel free to take your time, pause and come back.
If you don't make it to the end please read the following Bible verses and keep in mind that a woman being smart, successful, or capable, does not preclude a man from doing exactly the same.
- Genesis 2:18 — Look up the word translated to "help" or "helper" and see how it is used elsewhere in the Bible
- Genesis 3
- Genesis 24 — Who made sure the house was prepared?
- Genesis 25:27-34 — Who cooked the stew?
- Genesis 27:1-10 — Who was asked to cook? Who actually cooked?
- Proverbs 31:10-31
- Romans 5:12
- 1 Timothy 2:14
Problematic Ideas in Feminism
The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 1 Corinthians 7:4 KJV
- A wife shouldn’t be making major decisions on her own (re: tying your tubes and aborting a baby)
- I concede that if the husband is abusive this becomes more complicated. I’m speaking of a non-violent marriage situation where no one is in danger.
- Hollywood movies are very anti-male
- Examples include Black Panther and Jingle Jangle
- In this episode I tell you a lot about what I don’t like about Black Panther. For what I do like about it check out The Portrayal of Black Superheroes
- The female characters are very strong (not inherently bad), but the male characters are very weak:
- T’Challa is not a strong leader; he barely claims the throne; he knows the history of Killmonger when Killmonger appears and doesn’t try to make it right; struggles to pursue his love interest
- Killmonger is blood thirsty and wants to cause trouble
- T’Challa’s best friend betrays him at the drop of a hat
- M’Baku is the best example of a man in the movie and we only get to see him for 2 minutes
- This leads people to conclude that men are weak because the women are strong which is not correct
What Does the Bible Say?
- From the beginning, people have passed the blame. In Genesis 3, Adam doesn’t take responsibility for his actions—he blames Eve (and Eve blames the serpent).
- Romans 5:12 tells us that Adam is the one who brought sin in to the world
- 1 Timothy 2:14 tells us that Eve was deceived but Adam was not deceived (re: Adam knew exactly what he was doing)
- Adam’s behavior in the garden is the same thing we see today with men blaming women’s dress or attractiveness for their lust
- Adam was a leader because he was created first, not because he was a man; he received instruction directly from God
- Adam’s decision to follow Eve serves as an allegory for Christ giving up paradise to suffer on the cross
Wives submit to your husbands (Ephesians 5:22-33)
- The next verse says husbands love your wives!
- What does it mean to submit?
- What does it mean to lead?
- Cultural influence has had a lot to do with how Church members are defining this—much of which is not Biblical
- Think about how Yeshua showed His leadership
- Clear vision
- Builds up disciples to be successful
- Washing people feet at the last supper
- Stem from this idea of the man being the leader
- Somehow leader translates to provider (because we all know that money = power) and thus the woman is relegated to homemaker
- Traditional roles are fine, but they aren’t Biblical and they aren’t required
- Typically homemakers are the ones who wash dishes, cook, clean, etc. People often refer to this as “woman’s work,” but why?
- Don’t let cultural traditions overshadow Biblical values (Matthew 15:4-7)
- Do you have to take your husband’s last name? No one in the Bible has a last name—this is a European (specifically Anglo-Saxon) tradition and has nothing to do with the Bible. An example of a culture that does not do this is Spanish culture were they combine the mother’s name and the father’s name to create a last name, but no one’s name changes after the marriage ceremony.
- Laban prepares the house (Genesis 24:29-31)
- Jacob and Esau knew how to cook (Genesis 25:27-34; 27:1-10)
- Below is Proverbs 31:10-31 (emphasis added)
א 10 Who can find a capable wife? Her value is far beyond that of pearls.
ב 11 Her husband trusts her from his heart, and she will prove a great asset to him.
ג 12 She works to bring him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
ד13 She procures a supply of wool and flax and works with willing hands.
ה 14 She is like those merchant vessels, bringing her food from far away.
ו 15 It’s still dark when she rises to give food to her household and orders to the young women serving her.
ז 16 She considers a field, then buys it, and from her earnings she plants a vineyard.
ח 17 She gathers her strength around her and throws herself into her work.
ט 18 She sees that her business affairs go well; her lamp stays lit at night.
י 19 She puts her hands to the staff with the flax; her fingers hold the spinning rod.
כ 20 She reaches out to embrace the poor and opens her arms to the needy.
ל 21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household; since all of them are doubly clothed.
מ 22 She makes her own quilts; she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
נ 23 Her husband is known at the city gates when he sits with the leaders of the land.
ס 24 She makes linen garments and sells them; she supplies the merchants with sashes.
ע 25 Clothed with strength and dignity, she can laugh at the days to come.
פ 26 When she opens her mouth, she speaks wisely; on her tongue is loving instruction.
צ 27 She watches how things go in her house, not eating the bread of idleness.
ק 28 Her children arise; they make her happy; her husband too, as he praises her:
ר 29 “Many women have done wonderful things, but you surpass them all!”
ש 30 Charm can lie, beauty can vanish, but a woman who fears Adonai should be praised.
ת 31 Give her a share in what she produces; let her works speak her praises at the city gates.
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